How to communicate with an aging family member
Determining the best way to communicate with older adults, especially family members can be very challenging at times. Whether you’re just trying to carry on a friendly conversation or discussing serious matters related to their health, finances or other critical topics, it can easily become frustrating. As your loved ones’ skills begin to deteriorate due to illness or diseases like dementia and Alzheimer’s, your patience can be put to the test. Here are a few tips for improving your communication with older loved ones.
Don’t Use Baby Talk. Beware of patronizing, condescending or childish expressions and tone when talking with seniors. Remember you are talking to an adult, not a child. Patronizing speech or baby talk will put older adults on the defensive and convey a lack of respect for them. Put yourself in your loved ones’ shoes and think of how you would want to be addressed in the situation.
Be Patient and Tolerant. Understand that because they are aging and in some cases becoming more forgetful that they may tell you the same stories over and over again. It's important to your loved one to share with you. Take the time to show them they're important to you by listening attentively and asking thoughtful questions.
Maximize Independence. Always try to move toward solutions that provide the maximum amount of independence for your loved one. Look for answers that optimize strengths and compensate for problems. If your loved one needs help at home, look for tools that can help them maintain their strengths. Professional caregiving services, such as those offered by CareFocus Companion Services, provide assistance in a number of areas including meal preparation, light housekeeping or medication reminders.
When you are speaking with your loved one just remember to encourage their independence, listen attentively, and treat them with the respect they deserve. If you remain patient and caring, your loved one will respond positively to you, allowing for a better overall experience.
If you have questions or would like to learn more about how you can better plan for the future, contact your local CareFocus Companion Services office today.